Dec 8, 2015

A Pregnancy Story: Dear Connor

We have waited a long time for you. We longed for you and hoped for you. And soon we will get to meet you. As your mom, there is so many things I want for you. I have dreams for you.

I hope you treat everyone with respect. It makes me sad that you are coming into a world that is full of people who don't treat others with respect, but that's the reality. That doesn't mean that you can't be respectful. I certainly don't expect you to be a push-over and I hope you don't confuse the two but I think it's possible to be respectful while you disagree or work your way to your goals. I also hope you surround yourself with people who respect you. Don't waste your time on friends or anyone who isn't respectful. It's not worth it.

I hope you follow your dreams. I don't care what you want to be in life. You can be a plumber if that's what you want. You can be a doctor or a officer in the military or a software engineer. I don't care what it is, but I want you to be happy. If you are happy then that's all that I care about. Yes, you need money to survive in this world but it's not everything. I want you to spend your life doing things that make you happy.

I hope you learn that it's okay to have weaknesses. As a man you might feel like you have something to prove. You might feel like you have to be strong all the time. You might feel like having weaknesses makes you weak. But I think that knowing what your strengthens are and knowing what your weaknesses are makes you a better person. You can't do everything. You aren't going to be great at everything. There are going to be things that other people are better at. There are going to be things that you are better at. I think knowing what you excel at and knowing when to ask for help makes you a stronger person.

I hope you learn how to take care of yourself (i.e. laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc) You have to know how to take care of yourself. You can't depend on someone else all the time. Let's be honest any woman that you find when you are way way older will find it attractive that you can cook and do your own laundry and just take care of yourself. That doesn't make you a weak man because you can do these things. It makes you more well-rounded.

I hope you learn to laugh at yourself, and just laugh often. Be a happy person. As your mom, I am sometimes guilty at seeing the negative and not the positive. I hope you learn to find the positive. I hope you learn that it's okay to laugh at yourself sometimes. I'm not saying that you have to make yourself the butt of every joke or become a class clown, but sometimes it's okay to laugh at yourself instead of letting yourself be embarrassed. We all do embarrassing things and you can take those situations and hide yourself or you can learn from it and find the humor in it. I just rather you have laugh lines than wrinkle lines. Life will be so much better if you allow yourself to laugh.

I hope you are patient. I am not a patient person by nature. I have to work hard to have patience. It's hard sometimes and I fail often, so it's a daily battle for me. But I hope you learn patience. I hope learn that you have to work for what you want sometimes. I don't believe that you (or your sister) are entitled to anything. I think you have to work hard for what you want. Which means sometimes you are going to have to wait and/or work hard for what you want. I hope you learn patience in those situations. I hope you learn that sometimes you aren't going to get what you want even when you wait or work for them. I just hope you learn that patience is a good thing to have because sometimes life is all about waiting.

What we really want for you is to be happy. We want you to follow your dreams. We want you to be proud of who you are and be sure of who you are. Don't change for anyone. You are exactly who you are supposed to be. We will always be proud of you and will always stand with you.

Remember that you are special, you are loved, and you are wanted. Don't ever let anyone convince you otherwise. We have waited a long time for you and even though we don't even know you yet, we know that you are exactly who we were waiting for. We love you so much. Never forget that.

Love, Mama

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