Feb 9, 2016

A Pregnancy Story: Things Are A-Changin'

With another member being added to our family soon, things are going to change around here. Sometimes it's hard to imagine what having a baby again will be like. Sometimes it's even harder to imagine Addison no longer being an only child. The family dynamic is definitely going to change as we transition from a family of three to a family of four. And let's be honest, we are adding a little boy into the mix and I know nothing about little boys. Not to mention the fact that you have no idea what kind of personality the kid is going to have. Is he going to be fearless? Is he going to be cautious? Is he going to be a climber? Is he going to be shy? Is he going to be a runner? Is he going to be a good sleeper? Is he going to be laid back?

The truth is that the thing I was most terrified of when we first started trying was not doing it all over again but it was the affect it would have on Addison. It was hard to imagine not giving her my full attention whenever she wanted it. I worried about how I was going to juggle it all, especially since most of the time I feel like I barely have a handle on the one I have. Rob and I were making the decision to have another child but that decision was going to have an affect on our daughter and that was a terrifying thought.

The fear was only added upon as Addison went through her regression and fell behind. I worried even more about not giving her the attention she needed in order to get her on track. But things worked out exactly as they were supposed to because during that time that we fought to get her the help she needed and to get her back to where she needed to be, we struggled to get pregnant. Although I have trouble seeing the silver-lining in what happened even now, I think that it is that we were able to give her our full attention and get her back on track before we did add another child into the mix. Although she isn't completely caught up, she is definitely much better off than where she was a year ago.

Depending on the day Addison is excited about being a big sister. Honestly she doesn't completely understand. We talk to her regularly about Connor. She knows who baby brother is and she'll even tell you that he's in mama's tummy. But she doesn't completely understand what it all means yet. But we have no doubt she is going to be a great big sister. She loves to help. She is definitely interested in babies. She may want to take him back after the newness wears off, but she is going to be an awesome sister.


For us, we have to learn how to be parents to two. Rob is actually taking about three weeks off when Connor is born. It gives us time to adjust during the sleepless first few weeks without him having to juggle work in there. We also want to make sure we have to time focus on Addison so she doesn't feel like she is being replaced. We have no doubt there will be some jealously issues and we want to make sure she is still getting the attention she needs from both of us.

We are definitely excited about this little guy. I have had comments from people asking me if Rob was really excited about having a boy. My response is usually that he is no more excited about having this boy than he was about having a girl. He will definitely have to do some adjusting because he has gotten used to wrestling and playing with Addison. But he is just as fabulous with newborns as he is with three-years-old so he'll have no problem. Plus he is seriously the world's best swaddler. I can't swaddle a baby to save my life but he is really good at it.

I'm looking forward to not being pregnant anymore and getting my body [mostly] back. It was a struggle to breastfeed Addison and I worry about having that struggle again but this time having a three-year-old around who also needs my attention. I also suffered through the baby blues which will be even more challenging with a threenager running around.

As terrifying as change is, I'm also looking forward to it. I'm looking forward to our family changing and finally meeting this little man. We are all ready.

xo, B

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